HOW TO OVERCOME LONELINESS
As recorded in Genesis 2: 18, God made a significant statement about Adam, “It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to hilm.” God put Adam in a deep sleep, removed one of his ribs and from the rib created the first woman, and He brought her to the man.. Adam said, “This now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh. She shall be called woman because she was taken from out of man. Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” God created the lower creatures in a different way from man and woman. The animals were produced either in swarms(as the fishes) or in pairs(as the birds and beasts), but the first man was created as an individual. Man's partner was created by a subsequent operation of creative power, being produced from himself. Then the inspired writer adds a description of the time, reason, manner and result of the formation of woman. “And the Lord God said, it is not good for man to be alone.” For the new made man to have been left without a partner would, in the estimate of Jehovah, would have been for him a condition of loneliness, and He said loneliness is not good for man. Loneliness is just as bad for woman.
First, the scripture in Genesis 2:18 sets before us one of the greatest sorrows and problems of human existence. One of the most unique characteristics of human nature is loneliness. When God created the first man, it was decided by heaven that immediate measures must be taken to counteract his loneliness. God made it very clear that it is not good for man to be alone in this world. Ladies, did you know that you owe your existence in this world to loneliness. The man was lonely, and God made him a partner. However, the creation of woman did not remove all of man's loneliness, and the existence of man does not remove all the aloneness of woman. Husband and wives can be very lonely, even in marriage. I heard on the Televisiom mewscast recently that 85% of the women America would rather kiss their dog than their husbands. I wonder about that problem. Be that as it may, the Bible has revealed that marriage is one of God's gifts to the human race to alleviate loneliness. Family and friends also alleviate it. Many who ignore and willingly remain out of the marriage relatinship are often led into sad and sinful relationships. Their loneliness leads them into homsexuality, lesbianism and other immoral relationships out of the marriage relationship;. The marriage institution would prevent most all of the immoral sexual relationships of life. These people are often driven by loneliness to enter these social relationships that are forbidden by heaven. Even marriage cannot help soem widows and widowers: Remarriage is often out of the question for many of them. To live alone after many years of marriage is a hard burden to bear. One widow said, “Loneliness hits me worst when I have to get in bed by myself.” There are many enemies of human happiness, but of them all loneliness stands alone and apart as perhaps the greatest sorrow of mankind. An abandoned baby or child is the most unimaginable spectacle of loneliness in the world. It is a terrible thing for a child to come into the world totally alone. Every person is required in life to learn how to deal with solitude.
Furthermore, there is another form of loneliness different from anything I have previously discussed. This aloneness is not caused by any sorrows, accidents or difficulties of life. It is not caused by any mistakes we make in life. God created us with a special form of aloneness. It is a God-given condition of our nature. It is just the way God made us. What is the evidence that God has made us lonely people? In all the chief matters of life we are alone. You know this, and I know this because each one of us lives alone in this world in our own thoughts, and no one knows them but you and me and God. You do not know the thoughts that are in my mind because each human mind is rivate. People know only those thoughts that we make known to them. No one can read our minds. You know some of my thoughts on loneliness because I am revealing my thoughts to you. However we are very private individuals by creation, and no one can break into our minds and discover what is therein. Some writer impressed with this thought said, “Every person is an island to himself.” In a real sense that is true. The wife does not know what the husband is thinking about and vice versa!. We can all hide our thoughts. if we so choose. We are alone in our thoughts. What others may think of us may be different from what we think of ourselves. No one knows me but me, and no one knows you but you. Many look on this fact as one of the worst of all human woes. I must live with myself, and no one can live for me. Unpleasant as the thought is, in a real sense, we are all alone in the world. Even in a crowd we are alone by ourselves. Essentially, each person lives solitary and alone. To some this loneliness is a veritable demon. It drives people to alcoholism, addiction , drugs, and to all kinds of foolish, desperate and hurtful actions, even to suicide itself. Sometimes, one feels so completely alone in this world that he says, “No one loves me and no one cares for me. Why should I stay here?" Yes, loneliness can be our undoing. People can let it drive them to drink, enter into bad marriages, even to insanity.
Yet, God's word reveals that there is no reason why we should allow loneliness in any of its forms to destroy our lives, our peace of mind, our happiness on earth, or our eternal happiness in heaven. God made us subject to loneliness that we might share our loneliness with Him. We need to recognize our aloneness in life and let God remove it from our minds. He wanted us to be lonely and seek a relationship with Him. Man's aloneness should drive the human race to consider the evidences for the existence of God and the claims of revealed religion. When the mind of man can accept the existence and love of God, it changes our entire attitude toward loneliness. We are, after all, not alone in this world; God wants us to use our loneliness to find Him and develop a close relationship with Him. When God comes into a our life, there is someone to talk to when we are lonely, and there is someone to go to when we are in trouble. The loneliness of mankind should cause us to seek and find God. Prayer is talking to God. What is the evidence that we can show people who have never believed in God that such a wonderful Being exists and desires to be their friend?. It is said that Abraham was called a friend of God, and the Bible says that Enoch walked with God for 365 years and pleased God, and God transferred him to heaven without seeing death. Let us examine the evidence that teachers greater than us have used to persuade people that they are not competlely alone in the world. The apostle Paul presented this evidence to the Gentile world when he visited Athens, Greece. The city was full of f idol temples built for gods that never did exist. In Acts 17:24-27 Paul said, “God, who made the world and everything in it, since He is Lord of heaven and earth, does not dwell in temples made with hands. Nor is He worshiped with men's hands, as though He needed anything, since He gives to all life, breath and all things. And He has made of one blood every nation of men to dwell on all the face of the earth, and has determined their pre-appointed times and the boundaries of their dwellings, so that they should seek the Lord, in the hope that they might grope for Him and find Him, though He is not far from each one of us.” We learn from the apostle Paul that we do not need the Bible t prove the existence of God The universe itself provides ample evidence for the existence of God. Common sense tells us that every house is built by some one. It cannot evolve into existence by natural law. It requires a builder, and He who built the universe is God. The Bible says, “The fool has said in his heart there is not God. However, the Bible greatly multiplies the evidence for God's existence. Paul said God created this marvelous universe in the hope that man would study it and find Him, the Creator God. And it is not hard to find Him, for He s not far from every human being. God is close to every person on earth. He is close to us all. We find Him by finding the proofs of His existence. Those Gentiles to whom he wrote had no Bible, no written revelation, but they could still find God. God is near us because the proofs of His existence and power are round a bout all of us. Not only that but He himself is close and not far from every person. He is a spirit and present everywhere in the universe and in heaven. That He is not far from any human being is a truth for the human race to examine. Paul states that in God we live, move and have our being. God is the original fountain of life, and He sustains our life each moment and upholds us each moment. Let David present the evidence that God is near us and not far from us. Psalm 139:7-10 says, “Where can I go from Your Spirit? Or where can I flee from our presence? If I ascend into heaven, You are there. If I make my bed in the grave, behold you are there. If I take the wings of the morning and dwell in the uttermost part of the sea, even there your hand shall lead me and your right hand shall hold me.” David in this passage is speaking of the omnipresence of God. Omnipresence is God's “everywhere presence.” He speaks of God as a Person everywhere present in creation., yet He is distinct from the universe. He speaks of God's Spirit, His presence. God is there and He is here. Even darkness cannot hide from Him. All things have their being in Him, but He is distinct from all things. He fills the universe. He is the intelligence who guides and the power who sustains the universe. David felt that wherever He was in heaven-- in the grave, in hades, in the most distance places in the world, there His hand would lead him and his right hand would hold him. Nowhere are the great attributes of God—His omniscience, His omnipresence, His omnipotence set forth so strikingly as they are in this psalm. Nowhere is there a more overwhelming sense of the truth that man is beset and compassed about by God unable to take a step without His permission and control. According to David, man is the workmanship of God and stands in His presence and under theeye of One who is his judge.
Finally, I will present one more evidence that God is near us and not far from any one of us. God made us with a conscience which is our sense of right and wrong. Human beings are made completely free to do as they please. We are free to serve God or not serve God. We are free to to believe in God or not believe in Him. God does not interfere with the human will but with one exception. When we do something we believe is good, we feel good about it, but when we do something we believe is wornng, we hav e a guilty feeling. This is an inward protection that God gave us to help us live a good life. The conscience is another evidence of an all wise, all righteous and and an caring God who made the human race with a sense of morality. The Bible says that baptism is the answer of a good conscience toward God(I Peter 3:21). If you have not come to faith in Christ as your Savior, have not turned from your sinful way of life, and hav e not been buried with Christ in the baptismal water, you have a bad conscience and should feel guilty. The Gentile world during the law of Moses had no written revelation, but they will be judged by the way they used their conscience. They had a sense of right and wrong. Some of them were able to live a good life by the way they obeyed or disobeyed their conscience. Hebrews 10:22 says to Christians, "Let us d raw near to God with a true heart in full assurance of faith having our hearts sprinkled from an evil conscience and our bodies washed in pure wat4er. The baptiismal water is called pure water because Goid uses water in the plan of salvation to symbolize the death, burial and resurrection of Christ. The new spritual life does not begin until baprtism, at which time the penitent believer receives forgiveness of all sins in the past life. Christians are commanded to have a good conscience, that is, to have a good sense of right and wrong. In the Christian age of the world people can learn what is right and worng only by the teachings of Christ and His apostles in the 27 books of the New Testament. I close with the most important statement about God in th3e Bible: "Without faith it is impossible to please God, for he who comes to God must believe that He is, and that He is a rewarder of those who diligently seek Him(Hebrews 11:6}.